Holding onto grudges is one of the least efficient uses of energy.
The idea of being continually bothered by something that has happened in the past is natural. It is also pretty silly.
We only have so many mental cycles every day. To use mental energy on rehashing situations where someone or something ‘did you wrong’ means you are not using your energy to focus on the present or the future.
This may come off as being oblivious or dense to a situation, but I’m okay with that position. My preference is to be intentional about moving forward and letting things roll off your back.
If something doesn’t go your way, learn from that situation, but don’t hold onto it.
Each day is new. Use a different tactic. Make it clear to those around you that you are focused and on a more important course.
Petty responses based on grudges are short sighted. Keep your long-term goals in mind and don’t let little things bother you.